With the sad news in the Pacific Northwest of three strip club closures in the state of Washington this post is dedicated to the dancers and other employees who will be affected by it’s outcome.

ESPECIALLY if you live and work in the Seattle area as an exotic dancer — YOU NEED A LAWYER.

Strip clubs across the country have been in the news facing closures by the government so now is the time to protect your well being as a dancer no matter where you live.

Why you need a lawyer?
Most charges are for minor incidents that prosecutors expect dancers to plea on so they can use that as ammo to get certain clubs closed down either for political reasons or by helping competing or surrounding businesses.

He who greases the palm…

Protect yourself and your right to be an exotic dancer!

So here is my tip for dancers because let’s face it, most of us our on our own.

Start an “Attorney Fund”
Some of you may be thinking…”I’m a clean dancer I have nothing to worry about”.

That is the farthest thing from the truth.

Say the wrong thing to an undercover cop and you’ll find yourself in handcuffs and a paper jump suit goin’ downtown!

On that note as a suggestion – either transfer some saved money or start a seperate savings account (ING is good) so if the money is ever needed for an attorney you’ll be covered.

Save 10% if you can and never touch this money as long as you have a dancing career. If you’re feeling extra paranoid you could put in a bit more and use it as potential bail money.

Honestly you should save up to $5,000 but even $500-1000 is better than nothing. If 10% is too much for you at the moment any amount ($5 to $100 here or there) will do. If you can save $25 to $75 a month and treat it as a monthly expense you’ll be covered.

NEVER PAY MONEY UP FRONT TO YOUR CLUB TO HANDLE YOUR LEGAL OR FINANCIAL AFFAIRS.

Pay your own attorney unless the club provides one for you. If your club has a certain attorney that they like to use make sure they have a good track record and they don’t make you plead guilty for the sake of the club not getting in trouble.

Trust me some clubs will throw you under the bus if it means avoiding legal issues.

That’s all I have to say on the matter. THIS IS NOT LEGAL ADVICE but a financial decision that you need to start thinking about.

Have a good Friday night everyone and make that money!

Here are some topics for discussion.

Just read through the list and if a phrase catches your eye or makes you think go ahead and make a comment. This is a little bit of a free for all so be creative and most importantly honest with your questions and answers.

Ready?

Be likeable.

What’s your dream and how big is it?

Assertiveness training.

Never let others talk you down.

Do what you can do for yourself.

Don’t tolerate excuses from negative people.

Work because you want to work.

This is a learning experience.

Your dream is your business.

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Alrighty did you Limit the Options?

If you did then good for you. That is a way to weed out custies that hem and haw and waste your time.

For any nay-sayers limiting the options this is standard business practice for sales and other industries. 20% of your customers are going to give you the majority of your income. No need to mess around with customers who are not serious about purchasing.

What do you do when you get customers who are interested and loyal? Expand their choices of course.

If they are spending money practically give them the world (within reason of course.)

Choices you can offer:

Hourly rate (If your club allows or the law allows it.)

Discount on multiple dances – I wouldn’t suggest going below the posted price but if you are able to up sell come down a little bit when a custy is respectful and spending money.

Add them to your address book – Text, email or call and chat now and then. You can get a separate pre-paid phone for this or a free online 800 voice-mail. This is especially good if you travel.

Get a little closer - Those who spend and tip well get treated well. There is nothing worse that giving you’re all to someone who expects a lot of attention for very little money. Don’t hope that they spend money because you went over the top for them. It should be the other way around. The money does the talking. Be firm in telling your customers that the dances get better the more that they spend. If they don’t like this policy it’s okay to move on. High maintenence is fine but you have to be paid for it.

Ask the DJ to skip your stage (if possible) – Once on a slow night a new DJ put me up on stage twice while I was dancing with the same customer! Not every club allows this and some clubs and or managers don’t mind if it is not a regular occurrence. Give your regulars undivided attention and let them know you pulled some strings for them to ensure they have fun.

These are just examples of things you can offer your regulars who spend, and you will make them feel special. Not everyone is worthy of your time so if you keep falling into this habit, try limiting the options and when you get some loyal regulars treat them like gold.

Last night I started fading out writing Girl Friday Night where I was showing you how to limit options with strip club patrons.

Here is the rest! Make money!

Skip to Thursday night. Since this is the only real story I can remember that pertains to saying and doing what you mean.

Guy walks in and hasn’t gotten a drink yet. Mind you I don’t target customers that haven’t ordered drinks. If they are in my path when I walk buy they seem like fair game to me.

So a guy walks into a strip club…

As I charm him, as I did, he seemed interested in me so I figured now was the time to bring up the V.I.P.

No deal. He seemed angry that I would take advantage of him so soon. That is when I busted out my policy:

“Sweety I’m going to be busy later look how crowded it is tonight. You’d better snatch me up all to yourself before someone else does. I’m not sure I’m going to be able to come back later.”

With disgust he tells me “Well I guess we just don’t dance tonight then.”

Very well. I cut my losses, gave a shrug and moved on.

Walking past the bar I see a man at the ATM and what table does he go to? The table I just walked away from!

Mainly I saw this as an opportunity that he had just walked in. Not to be a snot as I can I often be, I darted on over and pulled my anti-cock-blocking move, and chatted up the person I followed from the ATM. (No I do not target custies that go to the ATM either.)

You should have seen the look on his friends face when took his buddy into the V.I.P. I made sure not to make any kind of gestures so that I wasn’t perceived as being bitchy, because I wasn’t. It’s just how automatically my mind works and I act on it.

And you should too. Hustle, hustle, hustle and you will learn to hustle better and better.

Your mind is analog. It learns and judges by it’s mistakes. You know what works and what doesn’t. Your brain unconsciously remembers what and how you did something and sometimes it slams the door on bad situations, “Never again!” or it says “What do we have here? I remember this.” and you’ll know exactly what to do.

Not to gloat I felt it was an important part of the story. Limit the options. I limited the guy who bought a dance from me because he was looking for something specific. To be sold on a dance.

I delivered.

Hey all I don’t normally work on Friday nights, and happen to be around so I thought I would give you an up date how my week went in relation to one of the hacks I gave you last week: Limit the Options.

Saturday: What a great night that was. Eagerly I was waiting for all the bachelor parties to roll in. I was in early enough to get warmed up, go on stage for a song, ask for a couple of dances and get in hustle mode for the evening.

The first gentleman (and yes I mean it) of the evening didn’t even have a drink yet and we were on our way to the V.I.P. for some reason I did not take no for an answer even after he said “We just got here.” He was with a friend but I quickly whisked him away and $400 later his friend pried him from me and said “Sorry be we have to go.” Very well. It was fun. It really was.

Summary: You can get a dance in the first five minutes. I was not overly pushy either. Sadly some clubs have a rule against getting a dance before a customer gets a drink. If you are not employed by your club, the rule should not apply.

Same busy Saturday night and the place was PACKED. I’d already had a regular come in since the first “gentleman” and was taking a break talking to a friend who frequents the club. Sitting across from us was this really cute guy probably early to mid 40’s and I see all these girls passing him by. Literally he is less than 10 feet away from us. How do I excuse myself from my friend? Oh never mind so and so it going to ask this guy for a dance and he’ll buy one…oh, no he didn’t. Girls keep walking right past him, talking to other men and getting turned down. This guy had a huge flag waving “hey I’m waiting for the right girl to ask me for a dance.”

Well dear, hold out because I’m your girl!

So my friend and I are still in deep conversation and girls keep walking by this poor man who desperately needs me to get up and go talk to him.

I’m too nice and my friend knows the deal so I say: “You know I love talking to you but I need to ask this guy over here for a dance.”

He said “Go right ahead I’m not insulted.”

I gave him a wink as I practically lunged from the couch and just blatantly sat next to the man.

He was really sexy too! Wow. Any how he told me how he just got off work (midnight) and hadn’t been in the club for awhile. We talked and when I felt the time was right I started bringing up the subject of a dance.

His reply was “You know I just want to sit her for awhile but you should come back. I like talking to you, and you’re really cute. ” (Blush.)

With the boldest of confidence I looked him in the eye and said: “I kinda have this policy…”

He asked “Oh. What’s that.”

“Well…” I went on as I shrugged my shoulders “If you don’t buy a dance from me now I probably wont come back.”

Silence.

He looked back at me and asked “So it’s pretty much now or never huh?”

In a super nice way because I didn’t really want to walk away I said “Pretty much.”

He smiled and said “Let’s go.”

Fortune favors the bold people. He didn’t spend tons of money but as I was walking him out he thanked me for convincing him to go back because he thought he was only going to get a dance and then go home.

Summary: Say what you mean, and mean what you say. For every guy that turns me down on any given night I either gently tell them my policy or politely say “Maybe another night.”

Even on a slow night.

Any way. This is going to have to be a two-parter so I can tell you what happened during the rest of my week with my Limit the Options tactic.

Try limiting the options maybe tomorrow night if you’re working and see how it goes. Use your own words, or feel free to use mine…they work. Don’t fight. Don’t struggle. Whatever you do don’t use force. The trick is to be convincing and more so, genuine. They know why you’re there, and vice versa.

I’ll try to do part 2 in the afternoon so you all can have something to work with and ponder for tomorrow night!

Ah the Law of Scarcity. You see it everywhere. In relationships, in business, in strip clubs and oh yes in sales.

I say sales because that is what we do, we sell pleasure and sensuality.

During a so-called recession people like to be a little more selective and stretch their dollar. No harm in that, but that is only if you let them.

Don’t let them. Initially any way.

If you do not take their money someone else will whether it is another dancer, his bank, his wife, ex wife or kids, the golf course whatever.

When customers are presented with too many choices they will hem and haw, stall, and tell you come back later.

The newbie dancer doesn’t know that she should be able to get a dance right away. When a customer says come back later generally you shouldn’t.

That is giving a person too many options: They can sit and watch, they can talk to their friends, they can dance with you, or they can sit and talk with you, they can watch the show, they can go smoke a cigarette, or you can come back later.

Here are the only two options you should ever give a customer: A table or couch dance or the V.I.P.

If you have been sitting for a few songs (or more God forbid) and they tell you to come on back later, the chances of them buying a dance are close to zero. DON’T PLAY THEIR GAME.

It sounds innocent enough. They just walked in, they want to relax, they want to catch up with their buddies, sip their drink, watch the girls blah blah blah.

All those are, are excuses.

Girls who really know how to hustle can get a dance even when a guy walks in the door, surrounded by his peers and even after he has said no a few times.

If you have been dancing for awhile and keep hearing “come on back later.” it’s time to step up and not return. Tell them “Maybe some other time night.”

If you keep going back to them – all you will do is keep going back!

Limit the options on the initial meeting, and if more girls learn this the less and less you will hear it. If you’re a veteran lead by example and if you don’t already do it, try it.

For me on those crazy slow nights as of late I stuck to the plan – ONLY ASK A CUSTOMER ONCE. It worked. I still made money because I was not wearing myself down and wasting time on indecisive people.

It may seem rude at first but try it. I promise its works. If you’re not bold enough to do it the entire shift try it for an hour or so. Guys that go to strip clubs want the short cuts without all the options. Don’t be afraid to give them the short cuts and that is tour of the V.I.P!

Thinking of becoming a stripper? Three things you should know:

You Don’t Need to Know How to Dance
It’s true you will pick a lot of it up watching other dancers and putting your own twist on things.

Some strippers are graceful and some really sloppy but still make money. Sex appeal is what counts and if you take care of your body and mind you will be a successful stripper.

Mind you womens bodies were meant to move in strange, sexy and crazy ways so if you’ve always wanted to dance just jump right in.

What will help you: Running, ballet, yoga, rock climbing, Capoeira, martial arts, strength training with kettle bells.

Stripping IS and IS NOT Recession Proof
I’ve already worked through two recessions and this will be my third (someone stop me!) and what it all comes down to is how you manage your money.

On a bad day you can still make more than some people make in a week and that is no lie even in so-called times like these. I say that because I think hypothetical financial melt-downs are the best times to make money.

What you can do? Educate yourself about money! If you’re the Internet user type and I bet you are, find as much information as you can about finances. It’s not as hard as you think.

Places online I would recommend are Yahoo! Finance because it is written in English and there are good articles by Rich Dad dude Robert Kiyosaki, Ben Stein and David Bach. I like Suze Orman but I think she complicates things so don’t go thinking you’ll never live up to what she says because her financial expectations are very high for people. Not that you should settle for less with money but that is just my thoughts about her specifically.

One of the best books that saved my financial life is Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth. It’s law of attraction meets a philosophical finance guru. It is not complicated to read at all and gives you glimpse to changing your attitude towards money and think in a wealth oriented terms.

Get it and it will teach you how think with a wealth mind and show you specifically how to manage your money. No I’m not money wealthy at the moment (I am time wealthy) but my mind now has a direction to work towards.

Which brings us to:

Have a Goal

How will becoming a stripper help you?

What do you want to achieve and how becoming a stripper will get you there that much faster?

Pay for school? Pay off debt? Are you just dirt poor? Need a car or house? Got a drug habit? Pay for treatment instead! It’s way cheaper.

You’re ultimate goal should be to get in and get out but that comes later.

Think with the end in mind BEFORE you start dancing or you’ll end up as a career stripper like me, which isn’t a bad thing mind you. Lot’s of girl do it and it’s not about being sucked into a lifestyle. You don’t have to deal with office politics or a bunch of other crap. In most cases it makes life easier.

When I started I was just broke as a joke but becoming a stripper helped me mature in ways I’d never imagined. For me I just needed money. (Notice how I didn’t say JOB – Just Over Broke does anyone really need a job?) I worked a few years and then quit, had a career, quit that and came back and have been doing it steadily for the past five years. It is what I like to do. Do I have a goal in mind? Yes. Once I reach that goal will I quit dancing? Doubtful!

I’m having too much fun.

To set a goal all you have to do is know what you want. Pick one thing at a time and go for it.

Don’t bother thinking about how you’ll get from point A to point B. It will all fall into place.

Goals are a mindset and you need a good mindset! Places to look online are:

The Blog of Author Timothy Ferris – He works and makes money and is the closest to a stripper lifestyle that I have seen set to real life. Well my mindset any how. If you know me well you know I’ve experimented with all sorts of crazy crap.

Life is supposed to be fun. Make money and vacation the rest of the time.

As I say when custys ask me what I do when I’m not the club: “Anything I want.”

Don’t know what you want? Let Tony Robbins help you: Goal Setting with Tony Robbins

Here is a book that I turn to for inspiration. Just open it up anywhere and start reading. If you’re in a money funk it will help you shift gears no matter what part of the book you read!

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